“It’s not love, It’s just sex.” Is This really What We Want to Teach Our Kids?
I have been burdened & broken-hearted today over how sexualized our culture is. Everywhere you look SEX can be found. From porn movies, pornographic magazines, sexual posters and pictures, barely dressed girls, clothing with sexual content printed on them, & the list just goes on and on. The other day while riding in the car I flipped through the radio stations and came across a song with the lyrics, “It’s not love, it’s just sex.” I looked at my husband and asked if he had heard it, and we both just shook our heads. SEX is everywhere! Today I have thought on how this is effecting our kids. With all of this casual SEX everywhere, what message is being sent to our kids? Last night Lifetime aired a movie titled, “She’s Too Young.” This movie was about how 14 year olds were experimenting with sex. Everything from oral sex, multiple sex partners, group sex, and pornography were being delved into by these 14 year olds. As a result of all of this casual sex, syphilis was contracted, & it didn’t take long for it to spread to almost the entire 9th grade class. SEX was treated as just another extra curricular activity & nothing to make a big deal over. I was saddened to think that this is really what our 14 year olds are doing in their spare time.
Listening in on teen conversations one might hear teenage boys talk of how they like to watch the teenage girls on the cheerleading squad or volleyball team, all because of the tight & extremely short shorts that are worn by these teenage girls. One might also hear of how male coaches are encouraging this behavior by pointing out these “hot” girls to the teenage boys. In a conversation amongst teenage girls, one might hear of how many sexual partners she has had, or how you must dress to get the boys attention. And then there is a common topic in both groups of how “everyone is doing it.” Being a virgin isn’t looked upon as being cool, and if you want to fit in then you need to put out (or at least give the impression that you will). Our teenagers are becoming SEX slaves! They are imprisoning themselves & other people by engaging in these dangerous activities.
SEX is meant to be a sacred & holy act between a husband and wife. God intended for it to be a good thing, not what it has become. It is definitely not meant to be treated with so much disrespect as it is being treated. Romans 12:1-2 comes to mind. It says, ” I appeal to you therefore, brothers and sisters, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your minds, so that you may discern what is the will of God–what is good and acceptable and perfect.” We have to change our way of thinking when it comes to SEX. We cannot treat it as casually as we do, and with so much disregard.
Men need to show our younger generation of men how to treat women. Show them how to love, care for, nurture, and respect women. Let’s stop showing & teaching our teenage boys that looking at women as SEX objects is ok, because it IS NOT ok! Let’s put a stop to putting out sexually explicit content in songs, videos, magazines, and clothing. Women need to show our younger generation of women how to carry themselves, respect themselves, and present themselves for modestly. Let’s stop teaching our young teenage girls that selling & putting out their bodies will get them far. Let’s put a stop to sexually exploiting women! It is time we said ENOUGH! It is time we took back our younger generation on men & women, and took a stand for what is right! Turn our thinking to the thinking of God, and teach our kids God’s way of SEX .
My challenge is for us to take action, and help teens see SEX the way God intended it to be. Together we can make a difference!