Macho Man or Manly Man
What is it with some men (and some boys) thinking they have to be the “Macho Man”? They think that by not showing any emotion, always having some witty yet rude comment to throw out at any given time, and playing as many girls as possible all at the same time is what a true man is. They view men who might be a bit sensitive and caring to be sissies, and men who actually have manners and treat women and girls respectfully at all times to be wimps. What is up with that? (Please do not think that I am trying to man bash, because that is not my goal here. And I am not throwing all men into one pile.)
I was reading the other day, and I came across a sentence that I believe sums up what a true “Manly Man” really is. Here’s the sentence,”David is a battle-hardened warrior at this point, but his conscience is still sensitized to the conviction of the Holy Spirit.” Check that out! This sentence is referring to the David that had killed Goliath and was to become king soon, but he was being hunted by King Saul so that Saul could kill him. Let me give you some insight into what exactly this sentence is referring to.
“Afterward David was stricken to the heart because he had cut off a corner of Saul’s cloak. He said to his men, “The Lord forbid that I should do this thing to my lord, the Lord’s anointed, to raise my hand against him; for he is the Lord’s anointed.” So David scolded his men severely and did not permit them to attack Saul. Then Saul got up and left the cave, and went on his way.” (1 Samuel 24:5-7)
David and his men were hidden away in a cave, when Saul enters the cave to relieve himself. It is dark in the cave, so Saul doesn’t even realize that David is inside. David has an opportunity to kill Saul before Saul can kill him, yet he decides to cut off a piece of Saul’s robe. Then David feels bad for even doing that. What? Why? Because David is a man of God, and he knows that only God is in control. Now that is a “Manly Man.” By not killing Saul, and then feeling bad for even have cut a piece of Saul’s robe off, David was not being a sissy or wimp. David was exercising the greatest power. The power of his will. WILLPOWER. Mark Batterson says, “And willpower may be the purest form of power.” David knew that he didn’t have the power to take Saul’s life, even if Saul was threatening David’s life. Saul was God’s anointed, and David knew he couldn’t do anything against God’s will. What a true display of being a man!
A man who is led by the Holy Spirit in all that he does, is a real man. A man who doesn’t give into the selfish desires of revenge, is a real man. A man that allows God to direct his steps, is a real man. Imagine if we started teaching this to our young boys, instead of having the opposite instilled in them. Imagine the change that could take place! It breaks my heart at some of the wrong teachings that some of our young boys and young men are being taught, in regards as to what it means to be a “Manly Man.” I have heard things like, “The way to get a girl is to act like you don’t care.” “Don’t ever take anything off of anybody.” “Real men don’t cry.” All of these are FALSE teachings! We need more examples of modern-day “Davids” for our young boys and young men. It is time we took back what God intended, and stop living a life of the pretended!
So, I challenge all men to stand up and be a “Manly Man” in God’s way!